Dear Lynda,
After meeting my online love interest about 3 months ago, I’ve been left feeling unsure of where I stand. We see each other about once a week and meet up in the same place as we met originally, and just hang out together. Its never in public.
He seems very interested in some sort of relationship with me and is open, emotionally, and physically when we’re together but it seems as though its not advancing anywhere. He’s told me his mentioned me to his friends but that’s about it. Shouldn’t I have maybe even met them by now? I only really hear from him a few days before he wants to see me again. Neither of us discuss whether this is now a ‘relationship’ or if its just a fling.
Is he just taking things really really slowly or am I being played. I really like this guy and I know he feels the same.. is he just playing it cool? or should I not rush it
AnonAngel
Dear AnonAngel,
Unless you enjoy having games played on you I wouldn’t start playing games with him cause in the end that might drive him off. I have learned that the best thing in a relationship is just being open with eachother. If you want to meet his friends maybe you should invite him to meet yours. If he is taking things slowly let him know how you feel and then ask him how he feels. Sometimes all a guy needs is a little encouragement. : ) I think the hardest thing in the world is finding that happy medium with a girl where she doesn’t feel like you are coming on to strong or not strong enough but the only way he will know is if you tell him. Believe it or not men can’t read minds and some of us are so dense when it comes to women that the only way you will get through to him is by being blunt and direct. Hope that helps.
Lynda
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Dear AnonAngel,
hmmmm… you say you hear from him a few days before he wants to meet you again? Do you ever contact him to see if he’d like to meet you? Could be he’s taking things really slowly so as not to scare you off, and a little bit of encouragement might be all he’s waiting for. Good luck!
Maryanne
Just wanted to thank all you guys for your input on my little love crisis, truly appreciated! what a relief.. things are going sweet with us
in particular, Dragon knight you were right!! All the best to you all…
AnonAngel