Dear Lynda,
I met someone on-line about 3 months ago, and since then we have progressed into a very strong loving relationship. We talk on the phone every night…..and she is perfect for me! We met once, and it went very well. She does everything I enjoy, and it seems as though we were meant for each other. We have talked about her moving to this town so we can be closer in the semi-near future…..
There is one problem……she is rather overweight, and I am totally not attracted to that physically. She has mentioned that she went through some female problems in the past year, and that she is better, and planning on getting much thinner by the summer.
Am I too shallow with this whole issue? I haven’t said a word,…and would never…..hurt her feelings! I am confused what to do….I think I am in Love with her!
Can you give me a little advice?????
Thank You!
Perfect Match?
Dear Perfect Match?,
Boy, am I glad that you wrote to me. You would be shocked at the amount of letters I get from women who have been jilted by their boyfriends because of their weight problem.
I was quite overweight when I met my partner. Probably had a lot to do with spending all my time on my own with only a computer and a refrigerator to keep me company. Food is often used to comfort, so understandably many single women have packed the weight on.
Now I am in the most fulfilling and happiest time of my life. You know how you can get a really attractive person, and they start looking ugly after a while if they have a bad personality? Well the opposite also holds true. I’m sure you know people who aren’t exceptionally attractive, but in your eyes they are truly beautiful because you know what a wonderful person they are.
My advice is that you stick to your heart. A woman that you are physically attracted to might get you through six months, but a woman that you are emotionally attracted to can get you through the rest of your life.
So, how did things end up for me? Well, I’ve just about lost all my weight and am looking fantastic for it I must say. He’s lucky he stuck with me. 
Do you want to miss out on an incredibly wonderful experience like that?
Lynda
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