Dear Lynda,
How often should I expect my internet lover to write to me or to keep in contact? I seem to be writing to him an awful lot, but some days I hear nothing from him. I have fallen madly in love with him and I fear that he will disappear on me for some reason. Please advise me as to how I can get over this fear and exactly what I should expect from an internet lover. He will be coming to the states soon and I don’t want to have a broken heart.
Desperate Expectations
Dear Desperate Expectations,
If the odd day is passing here and there without hearing from him don’t despair. He may have a job with heavy demands on his time. Find the reasons behind his sometimes delayed contact and there you will find your peace of mind.
If his reasons are nothing more than pathetic excuses, you may want to have a good think about his dedication to this relationship. The way that he is treating you now is a good indication of what you can expect in the future, so be sure to keep both eyes open.
You will get over your fear when you know that he has legitimate reasons for these delays, and you know that your fear isn’t instinct about some dubious behaviour.
There is no expected behaviour for an internet romance. You will do well in love if you receive honest and wholehearted responses.
Lynda
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