I met Robin in May 2002 through one of my friends. She (Natasha) had met him through her friend’s (Shelly) sister, Alicia, who met him in an AOL chatroom (did I lose you already?). Natasha told Robin that I liked the 80′s band, Duran Duran, so he IMed me with the first words of: ‘Hi Amanda, so you like Duran Duran too?’ Strange, because most 14 year olds don’t listen to 80′s music!
He lives in London and I live in south Florida, near Ft. Lauderdale. He was 20 at the time, but we hit it off immediately. We found that we had so many things in common – music, movies, food, everything. He was engaged at the time to a woman he didn’t even love, but she loved him. She had leukaemia so asking her to marry him, he thought, would give her hope.
Whenever I would get online he would always be there too and would IM me immediately. 2 months later, when I was 15, he told me he was in love with me. He was planning a trip down in late August to do some recording with Natasha (she likes to sing and he is a music producer/radio and night club DJ). He told me he didn’t care about doing any of that with her, but that he just wanted to meet me and my parents and spend time with me. A week after he said he was in love with me I told him I loved him too. I couldn’t wait to meet him. I asked him if he wanted to marry his fiancée and he said he didn’t.
The first time he called me was August 9, 2002. I picked up the phone shaking. He was shaking too. I had so many butterflies and I had to lie down or otherwise I would have fainted. I could hardly understand anything he was saying because of his thick British accent. It was very sexy though! He cried all through the call (he still sounded sexy) and told me how much he loved me and how perfect I was over and over again. I managed to tell him I loved him twice at the end. It had been a new experience for both of us. We both had never been in love before or said ‘I love you’ to anyone.
The day came, but I wasn’t going to meet him at the airport. He was going to go to Natasha’s. He never called once. The next day I got an email from him and he said he had returned to the UK to be with his family because his grandpa (his favorite relative) had suffered a heart attack. I had told my parents about him. My mom was supportive, and of course, my dad wasn’t. He was mainly worried about him being a predator, etc.
In September, he broke off his engagement to his fiancée by telling her that his heart belonged to someone else. Whenever he would go up to his parents, he would bring stuff that would remind himself of me (anything from cereal, soda, postcard, love song cd) and talk about me non-stop to his relatives.
We planned to meet in late December for New Years. He emailed me from the airport and told me that since he had filed for immigration papers, his passport had been cancelled. He sat in the airport crying. Then while he was driving from the Liverpool Passport Office he got in a car crash (his dad emailed me). He was hospitalized and then he stayed with his parents (400 km north of London) for about a month and a half. It was the loneliest time of my life. I couldn’t talk to him at all. I cried all the time, and I missed him so so much. I cried at the silliest things it seemed.
I waited for him and eventually he got online. I was so happy. We were the happiest people alive! He was going to come down for my birthday in June 2003. He ended up having emergency back surgery the day before my 16th birthday. Surely it was a disappointment, but our time to meet will come!
We talk about everything together. He is my best friend, no doubt. He can even tell when I’m upset just by the way I type. We know each other so well. My friends like him and think he’s a great guy. Even though I’m 16 and he’s 21 (22 in October) we get along like there’s no age gap at all. We talk about our future together all the time – getting engaged, getting married over in his hometown, having 2 kids, and so on. Robin is the most sensitive and romantic guy I know. He cries on the phone every time I have to leave him, but he sings to me too! My parents let him call me once a week for like an hour (it sucks!). It’s the highlight of our week! I love his hearing his voice, his accent, and the way he begs for me to stay longer with him! You have to love the British sense of humor too!
We truly believe we are soul mates and that we will get married. Our wedding date is June 4, 2009 and we have names for the kids too. =o) I could not picture my life without him. He’s the greatest guy in the world and he is perfect. I love him so much and his feelings for me are more than I could ever imagine.
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I met James online on icq by his nickname..i had my friend Lucilla telling me how much she likes blond guys when we were talking online.. and actually was asking me to introduce blonde guys to her….so I searched for “rubio” which means blonde in Spanish. I am from Argentina and I speak Spanish. Well, I looked for them and there was a huge list of rubios and I started contacting her with some of them,but for some unknown reason I picked one for myself.
I don’t have any preference about hair color but I picked one from the list anyway and that was James. That was on the 24th of May, 2001. James got that nickname cause once in one of his trips to dominican republic someone forgot his name and people started calling him rubio.
Well, we are still far apart and the distance is awful. I was 18 years old and he was 40 then (now we are 20 and 42) We started talking and getting to know each other and found that we liked each other. He decided to come to my country to meet me that was on August 24, 2002 and everything was great. He came here 5 times and it was great except for 3 months when we were fighting and we broke up.
It’s hard for many people to understand our relationship because of the distance and the age difference. To sum it up, everything is okay and we are getting married next year. James has been divorced twice and he has a daughter. She is a little kid. I’m going to be her step mother. I would love that because she is part of him and I love him.
I am a stubborn person. Almost as stubborn as James. We might sound crazy but we werent born to follow any kind of rule in this crazy world..man we r gonna die someday why not do what you feel like doing?
James has a great body, is tall, has blonde hair and beautiful blue eyes. He has a sexy voice too and he has a strong personality and I love him!!!
We are engaged and we will marry next year.
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Craig and Lydia
He started messaging me and calling me a “Snob!”, he was joking of course. finally he knew I didn’t want to be bothered, so he left me alone. Craig would sign on but never message me anymore, and I started missing him…so the next time he signed on I messaged him and called him a snob we had a laugh about it and we started talking everyday after that. I was growing feelings for Craig and he was growing feelings for me as well. The other person I was with was never around for me like Craig was and we were together awhile and still never met in person. I decided I wanted to be with Craig, so I wrote the other person an e-mail telling him I met someone else and I didn’t feel the same, he understood and wished me the best. Craig and I became an “online” couple around February-March 2001. He started talking about coming to see me in May. I didn’t believe him at first because if someone from the other side of the country couldn’t find a way to come see me, how was someone from the other side of the world going to?!?
Craig did though, May 31st 2001 he came down to my town and met me, my sister, and my sister’s boyfriend. I remember seeing him for the first time. We we’re driving into the parking lot of where he was staying and he was standing outside waiting for us. The butterflies in my stomach started doing flips just knowing he was really there. I’ll never forget how he was standing…he had one arm up and against the wall and the other was at his side with his hand in his pocket…he looked like such a punk! We parked and got out of the car and Craig introduced himself to my sister and her boyfriend and shook their hands. When he turned to me I held out my hand and he got this grin on his face and totally ignored my hand and said “C’mere!” and pulled me in for a hug instead. That took me by surprise, I was so shy and embarrassed, I can’t remember now but I know I must have been blushing! I hugged him back as best I could for being so shy. We walked around for awhile but I didn’t talk much…I hated being so shy, but it all happened so fast. Craig stayed in my town for the next two days, but then he was going up to Florida and Alabama to visit old friends of his. I wish I had been more open to him when he came to see me the first time but I had to learn to get over being shy. Craig stayed in Florida and Alabama for two weeks (a week in each place). He came back to me in the middle of June and stayed with me for a week, but I was still shy and not opening up to him.
I know it must have hurt him, but he understood. We didn’t say goodbye properly but I remember him kissing my cheek and saying he’d talk to me soon. I just cried after that…I knew I wanted to be with him, but he was leaving to go back home. He called from the airport, and finally when he got home he called. I was so relieved he got home safe. We talked everyday and continued our relationship online, through e-mails, phone calls, and letters. After meeting in person we knew that our feelings were true and grew stronger after meeting. Eventually Craig talked about bringing me to Australia but things weren’t so good on my end and I couldn’t leave at that moment and Craig had commitments to work that he couldn’t get away from. We were apart for a whole year before seeing each other again. It got stressing being apart for a whole year and we did have bumps along the way but we still stayed commited and never lost contact, and it gave us a chance to really get to know each other better (and that helped me lose some of that shyness I had on the first meeting).
Finally everything was going well…I had settled my problems and he was able to get time off work. We were going to see each other again, and our feelings were stronger than before. The trip out to see me this time was more planned, and a bit more organized (although not perfectly! LOL). January 2003, Craig came back to see me, and bring me back to Australia with him. Craig arrived in Boston at 9:00 PM on January 17th 2003, my sister and I went to pick him up from the airport. That didn’t go exactly as planned…LOL…my sister ended up getting lost and we got to the airport about an hour or so late. We had given Craig my sister’s cell number so he could call it and see where we was and how close. It was so cold that night, especially for Craig…he definately wasn’t used to Massachusetts weather! He was going to be staying a week and then we would be flying back to Australia together. The week went by so quickly and was spent packing up my things, showing Craig around, and introducing him to my family. I hardly slept that last night I was in the USA, I was thinking of being on a plane for the first time, saying goodbye to my family, and going to this new country with all it’s different cultures, and also meeting Craig’s family for the first time. I had spoke to his family a few times online and on the phone but I still had butterflies in my stomache.
Morning came, and it was time to go. I was crying, my mom was crying but she knew I had to go and do this for myself. We hugged, said our goodbyes, then Craig and I were on our way to the airport, but first we made a few stops to say goodbye to the rest of my family. We arrived at the airport and I said goodbye to my sister, she was crying pretty bad and I was trying to be the strong one, but I knew how much I’d miss her and the rest of my family. We went inside the airport and checked our bags in, we waited 20 minutes and then it was time to board the flight. I was so nervous, anxious, and glad that at least I wasn’t alone, Craig was with me. It felt so good being with him again, and I wasn’t so shy this time because we had spent a year getting to know everything about each other! I honestly enjoyed the flights, being so high away from everything, looking down and seeing all the city lights. It was a different experience for me, one I’ll never forget…although I wish the airplane seats weren’t so close together!
When we finally landed in Australia, Craig’s family was at the airport to greet us. We came along way, and I couldn’t believe I was there! Craig and his family showed me around Australia, it’s such a beautiful country. I was only supposed to stay for three months, so they showed me as much as they could, and I met some of his family. As the time flew by we knew we didn’t want to say goodbye again, especially not now when things were going so good. We got engaged in March when Craig proposed to me during dinner at a cozy Italian resturant, I was so excited and of course I said yes (actually he proposed twice, but I’ll tell you about that another time…LOL)! We immediately started making plans. First was notifying Immigration of our intentions, and getting information about extending my Visa. After we had all the information we needed, it was now time to plan our wedding! Our engagement was short and was spent planning everything. We decided we would have our wedding at “Births, Deaths, & Marriages” in Sydney. We were married on April 22, 2003. It was a small ceremony with close friends and family. The next day we had an appointment with Immigration, they granted me a “Temporary Partner Visa” and in two years my case gets reviewed for permanent residency. After the two years when I get my permanent residency, Craig and I are going to renew our vows and have the wedding we didn’t get to have the first time as a celebration over my residency and that we’ve finally made it!
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Stacie and Alex
It was a Sunday morning in February I got up half asleep as per usual I think I was working the night before, my computer was still on and still connected to the Internet and for sum reason at that point I decided to venture in to a chat room which wasn’t places I usually spend my Sunday mornings, usually breakfast then back to sleep or watching TV laid in bed. But I went in to the yahoo chat rooms, not sure now which room I entered; as I do if I’m ever in there I just scan to see who’s in to see if there is any names which stand out and there was……..it was Stacie’s yahoo name, so I decided to have a look on her profile, saw she was female, very cute and single. So I pm’d her and to my surprise she pm’d me back, and there we were chatting away for the next couple of hours, before she went to bed as she is 6 hours behind me.
I had a new friend!!!
Well the days and weeks past we chatted most days, and I could tell Stacie was a really nice girl and I was getting feelings for some here I had never spoke to or even seen in person!
I think I was probably the first to say “I wish I could come and see you”, I’m not sure how it went from there but the first steps were in place for me to go see Stacie in America. I wasn’t sure how I was going to pay for it because I’m not the worlds best saver, but Stacie said she would help out but I didn’t want her doing that, I wanted to go but I wanted to be able to save and get there myself.
Everything was going great up to May when it was the time of Stacie’s brothers wedding, if I could have afforded it we both said it would have been nice for me to be there with Stacie, but things couldn’t materialise so soon so I eagerly waited for Stacie to return from the wedding so I could see her in her bridesmaid dress and probably a lil tipsy, but I was sat there and no Stacie, I thought she must have got too drunk to go online. What happened I won’t go into it’s between me and Stacie but it was something that hurt me very much at the time and I decided that I didn’t want to speak to Stacie anymore.
Over the next week / two weeks I saw Stacie online she kept sending me messages saying that she was sorry, I didn’t respond. Until one day I decided to say hello to Stacie and see how she was, I can’t stay angry with people for very long especially people I like and care for.
I had thought long and hard about what had gone wrong and decided to give it another go, to see if we couldn’t get to the stage where we were pre May. I think Stacie was a little more cautious than I was, about trying again to get to where we were before.
Over the next month or two we began to fall for each other, I began to feels things for Stacie that I have only had for someone I have met and been going out with in person.
I for some reason decided to ask Stacie what she felt to me, I had it in my mind how I felt I was falling in love with her, and I thought Stacie felt the same but I think I wanted to see it from her, she was reluctant to make her feelings known, I think she was scared because of the distance between us. She asked me and I new what I felt but I was myself a little apprehensive of putting “I love you” down, but that was the way I felt so I did. From what I can remember Stacie wasn’t far behind me agreeing she felt the same.
Well we got the complicated bit out of the way now we had to deal with the practicalities of been nearly 4000miles apart we both desperately wanted to see each other, but I hadn’t managed to save much in the way for a flight or my spending money to go to America. I said it would be about September that I would come and that was the initial and still the plan up to that point but I think Stacie was getting more anxious as the weeks past and I hadn’t managed to save as much as I needed to. I was left with 1 final option, the bank with no interest charges – my dad! I sat down with my mom and dad and explained the situation and how I would pay him back, he agreed all I needed to do was get the time off work and book my flights.
Stacie had agreed with her parents that I could stay at there house, we weren’t sure how or where I would rest my head but I would be able to stay some how.
So I booked my leave at work, and booked the tickets, the date was set, 23rd August and returning 1st September.
Now the excitement and countdown begun!!!
At this point now we were chatting on the net and on the phone for hours a day.
This is the story as told by Alex Stacie has also written her side of the story. Be sure to read it… Once upon a time..
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Alex and Stacie
Ok so maybe the fairy tale beginning is a bit much. To me though, it’s sort of seems fitting. Well anyway, on to my story.
A little about me
I thought we might start with a little background on me. Just to catch you up to speed before I jump right into everything. I was born in St. Louis, Missouri in 1978. I have 4 brothers, 3 older one younger. I grew up in a mixed family. Sort of the “Brady Bunch” concept but we were not at all like them, thank God! Fast forward to 1998 and I met my ex-husband. Can anyone guess how we met? Ah, what wise readers you are! Yes, we met online. I was 19 he was 22. This was a very fast “romance”. We talked a few months over the net and then later through letters and phone calls. Around the beginning of August he drove up from Tennessee to meet me and spend the weekend. Well that’s all it took, I was head over heels. He was only back home for one week before we decided we couldn’t be apart anymore. So he packed up and moved in with my family. We were married in December. Told you this was fast! Well anyway to make a long story short, we were doomed from the get go. We had a little girl in June of 2000 and we separated for good in March of 2002.
February 2003
We were moving again and I hate moving. You’d think we’d be professional movers by now. Just to give you an idea of how often we’ve moved over the years let’s just say I went to 3 different high schools. And my daughter who was 2 ½ at the time was about to move into her 5th house! So by those examples I am sure you can figure in your head that I must’ve moved as much even as a child!
Anyway, here it was Saturday night, I had no plans and no boyfriend. Late as the hour was, no one was awake but me. So I decided to get on my computer. I had a small list of online chat friends that I’d talk to from time to time. I thought, maybe one of them would be awake and wanting to chat. As it turns out, no one was there either. Now I know that there is so much you can do online. I could’ve played a game, or found something interesting to read. But instead since I haven’t been in a chat room in a long time, I decided to do that. Usually 20 min tops and I am out of those chat rooms. Nothing ever seems to change. It’s almost as if you can leave a room and not go back for 6 months to a year. And then when you do go back, it’s the same people and they’re chatting about the same old stuff!
Tonight wasn’t looking much different. Being female of course I was getting plenty of private messages. Here are a few examples.
Hotman2003: Hey you’re hot baby. Wanna chat?
Hunkaburninglove: Ohhh nice tongue ring, use it often?
Sexyguyforyou: Got a cam baby?
Get the picture? There are worse one’s I’ve gotten myself but I’m hoping to keep this story G rated. Well just as I’d had about enough I got another message. I don’t remember now what he said. I wish I did. But somehow I knew he was different. Although I am pretty sure he said something about me being cute. That always wins brownie points! What a nice guy though! We talked for a few hours that night. I found out he was the same age as me (2 ½ months younger) and that he was British. Ah, how sexy! I’ve always had a thing for those accents! Plus I am a huge Hugh Grant fan. So even though I don’t usually talk to guys in other countries, for Alex I made an exception.
Spring 2003
From that February night on, we spoke pretty much every day. Or tried to at least. Around this time we spoke on the phone for the first time. He was just as much fun to speak to over the phone as he was online. Although I have to say at first it was really hard to understand his thick accent at times. But he sounded so sexy it was cute that he had to repeat himself. Alex and I were pretty flirty with each other. He’d sometimes ask me how I felt about him and I’d try to blow him off. No way was I going to get involved again with a guy I met online. Let alone one that was 4,000 miles away from me. Plus you know you can be anyone you want to be online. How could I know he was for real or not? But I am not cold-hearted, I did have feelings for him. I just didn’t want to admit it. Not even to myself.
In May my brother was getting married. So for a few weeks I was pretty busy on and off with getting my dress and Savannah’s (my daughter) dress. Plus all the other little last minute things you have to do in preparation for a wedding. Alex knew all about the wedding and we both would’ve liked for him to be there for it. We had discussed his coming to America but he wouldn’t be able to come until September. During this time I got very lonely not having a boyfriend who was here with me all the time. I started to doubt my feelings for Alex. And I started to think the whole thing was just a game. So I made a huge mistake. My ex-boyfriend was a friend of my brother’s and he was who I had been paired up with in the wedding party. So over a long weekend him and I were together a lot. The more people saw us together the more they assumed we were a couple. When they found out we in fact we an ex-couple everyone started pushing us to get back together. Were we blind to the fact that we were meant to be? So somewhere in the midst of all this we started to wonder if everyone was right. So we ignored the fact that the problems we had in the past that led to our break up were still there. And so we got back together.
Almost losing Alex
Well I knew that the first thing I had to do was to tell Alex I had gotten back with my old boyfriend. At the time I thought it was the right thing to do. I mean my boyfriend was here and Alex was so far away. Maybe we’d both realize that what we thought we felt for each other wasn’t real. I thought my feelings for Alex would just go away as well. Sitting down and telling Alex was so hard for me. I cried all the way through it. He seemed so upset as well. I realized right then that I had made a mistake. That what Alex said he felt for me was real. And what I felt for him was real too. My heart was broken. To make matters worse Alex said he no longer wished to speak to me.
Of course almost as soon as my relationship with my ex began, it ended again. So now here I was alone again and heartbroken. Not heartbroken over my ex, but because I had lost Alex. He’d become my best friend over those months and I missed him terribly. So I’d see him online and I’d tell him how sorry I was. I wasn’t trying to get him back romantically. I thought I had forever ruined that. But I really wanted my friend back.
Then one day Alex sent me a message while I was online. We started to talk a bit about what had happened. As the conversation went on I told him I was single again. Right away Alex wanted another chance for us. I wasn’t too sure. I still scared at the thought of being in a long distance relationship. They are so hard and so few are successful. But I realized that I had been happier talking to Alex in those few short months than I had been in quite awhile. He just seemed to bring out the best in me. So I made a promise to myself, I’d would just stop being scared and let things happen.
Not long after this Alex and I began to sense that there was more than just infatuation going on. There was a real possibility that we were falling in love. We use to tease each other about it a lot. It’s pretty cute looking back now because I think we both knew it was really true and we just were to scared to admit it. But one day we had a serious conversation about it. He asked me how I truly felt about him. Ah ok well I wasn’t ready to answer that just yet. So I said, well how do you feel about me? It was then that he said some really sweet things and that he thought he loved me. Wow! If ever there was a doubt in my mind, there wasn’t one now. I was head over heels for Alex. He is the sweetest man I have ever met. It’s almost like we were meant to be we compliment each other so well. It wasn’t too long after that I told Alex I felt the same.
Ok we’re in love, now what?
Well now it was even more important to me that we meet. I had to know this was real. And I had to see him, kiss him and touch him. I needed all those aspects of our relationship that had been missing up to this point. So I tried to patiently wait. Alex was supposed to be saving for his trip and he was working a lot so I wasn’t too worried about it at first. I figured come September he’d be here. But as we got to the 6 week point it looked like that wasn’t going to happen. All he had managed to save was $150! No where near enough for his ticket. So of course I was disappointed and then the little doubts crept back into my head. What if seeing me hadn’t been all that important to him to save money? So I laid all my fears out for Alex and said maybe we’d have to postpone his trip. And once again said maybe we should stop this now, before one of us gets hurt. I reminded him how hard long distance relationships were. And what choices we’d have to make in the future in order to be together. Well Alex wasn’t having any of that! He loved me and he was coming no matter what! So he asked his father to lend him the money. His dad agreed and before I knew it Alex had bought a plane ticket! So now we had a date set in stone. August 23rd, 2003! The weeks passed by slowly, but really before I knew it, he was on his way!
Meeting Alex
My day began as a rather usual Saturday. My parents were awake and we were off to have breakfast together as we have on many Saturday mornings. I was feeling a little nervous and counting the hours until his plane arrived. We had some errands to run before and after we had breakfast. Once we got back home I still had quite a bit of time before I needed to get ready to go to the airport. So I tidied up my room and took a nap. I figured I’d need it later. When I woke up I thought I still had plenty of time. So I showered and went into my room to get dressed. I was trying to decide what to wear when my mom comes in and presses my cell phone to my ear. I was really confused at first but then I realized it was American Airlines! I had signed up for updates on his flight. So at first I thought it was just a message telling me his flight was due to arrive on schedule. But then the time it said the flight was landing hit me! Oh it was going to land 40 min early! It was about 10 min later Alex called; “I’m here!” Oh how exciting! I told him we’d be there soon and for him to call my cell once he had made it through immigration and customs. So I rushed to get ready. My face was so flushed from nerves and the heat I decided make-up, which I rarely used would be needed. So I put that one and made my mother do a once over of my hair, outfit and make-up. She approved and my dad and I got ready to go. I kissed everyone good-bye and grabbed my water and purse and out to the garage we went. Of course we were followed out and more good-byes and well wishes were given. My mom said “Stop being so nervous”, I was beautiful and she was sure Alex would think so too.
Ok so finally my dad and I were on our way. My dad talked a lot on the way to the airport. I really wanted to listen to the radio and calm my nerves a bit but of course he wanted to chat. So I heard the story of how my parents met again for like the 100th time! As soon as we pulled up outside the airport my stomach had huge butterflies in it! I was so nervous now! I kept seeing all these really cute younger girls and kept thinking, what if he is disappointed when he sees me? My dad of course had great fun teasing me. He’d see some random guy and yell “There he is!” I have no idea why I kept falling for it since I knew Alex would call before trying to venture outside.
It seemed like hours before he finally called me back but really it had been about 30 minutes. Now it was time for me to get out and go inside. My dad had promised to wait in the car so Alex and I could be alone for our first face to face meeting. At this point though I would’ve been grateful to have him go with me! So I told Alex to stay put, I’d come in and find him. Ha! Easier said than done. Where I entered was pretty empty of people but I could see farther down where Alex was supposed to be waiting there were quite a few people. I don’t know why, but I assumed he’d still be standing by the baggage carousel, so that’s where I was looking. The farther I walked with out seeing him though, the more nervous I got! Right as I was about to panic a bit I almost walked into someone! At first I didn’t recognize him but as soon as he smiled and said “Hey” I knew it was Alex! So I think I said “Oh there you are!” We leaned forward and quickly had out first hug and kiss. I have to admit my first 2 thoughts were that he was even cuter in person and that he was shorter than me! Then of course my next thought was, I hope he likes me! So I ok let’s go and as we started to walk I called my dad. This was a welcome distraction because I was still so nervous! After some difficulty with getting his huge suitcase up the steps we walked outside and put his things in our car and away we went. We talked all the way home. He was so cute!
When we got to my house everyone was there. My mom, my brother Chris and his wife Debby and their son Cody, and my daughter Savannah (Nana). So once inside he was properly introduced to everyone including my dad again since it was sort of hard to do it in the car. I took Alex upstairs to show him where his room was and where to put his things. Also I must confess because I wanted a few moments alone with him! Alex had been sweet enough to bring presents for everyone so we passed those out. Of course everyone wanted a chance to visit with Alex so we were far from being alone! But eventually I got everyone to leave us for a few minutes. I felt really shy around him but I knew that all those feelings I had been having these past few months were very real. So we exchanged a few kisses and hugs again and then went downstairs so we could visit with my family. It was about that time that I started to feel quite ill. I think it was all the excitement and nerves because all the sudden I was quite nauseous! Everyone was concerned about me and offered to cancel our dinner plans but I was pretty sure, if I ate something I’d feel better. So we went and had a nice dinner together. We had planned to go out for drinks that night but decided to just go home and get some sleep.
I still believe in happy endings
We had 8 days together and it was over before I knew it. We did lots of tourist type stuff. We saw the Arch, downtown St. Louis, went to a Cardinals baseball game, and to Grant’s Farm. As well as some shopping and the Science Center and History Museum. We tried to squeeze as much in as we could. But there were 2 days that Alex was quite ill as well that we didn’t do much. Over our 8 days together I started to feel even closer to Alex than I had before and really didn’t want him to go. But I knew he had to and we planned for him to come back over Christmas and New Years. Right then, all I could think was how much it hurt to say goodbye to him and how far away December was! I cried a lot the day he left and for a day or so after.
As time goes on I am better able to deal with the distance. I still miss him very much and wish he was here. But we talk every day, which makes it much easier. Right now we are both counting the days until December 17th! And when I think about how the odds were so small of Alex and I ever meeting and falling in love were, and about everything we’ve gone through so far, my fairy tale beginning just somehow seems to fit now. Don’t you think so? I hope you’ve enjoyed reading my version of our story. Be sure to read Alex’s as well, although I’ll warn you he’s a bit more long-winded than I am! Ha ha! Be sure to check back after the New Year, I am sure there will be many new updates to read!
This is the story as told by Stacie. Alex has also written his side of the story. Be sure to read it… Ups and Downs…
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Dennis and Rachel
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Christopher and I met by chance in a chatroom, as most people here seem to have. I’d done the chat thing a bit with my friends for a laugh in my late teens, but wasn’t really that interested any more. However, I was doing odd shifts at the homeless teens hostel I worked at, and found that I would be sitting up late at home during my time off, when my house-mate would be sleeping. Bored, I went into one of the Yahoo Books & Literature chatrooms, hoping to get some intelligent conversation. I went in a few times, and struck up an acquaintance with a guy who turned out to live a few miles away from me in Belfast, Ireland – it was him who told me that I should talk to Christopher, a regular there, as he was Irish too. So, when he came in, I said “hello” – I thought we’d get on well just by his chat name -> leftwing_irishcatholic – at least we shared the dame views politically, culturally and spiritually! I found out that he wasn’t Irish, but Irish American – his parents had moved over there separately when they were young, and had met and married in New York. Our first conversation wasn’t particularly aupicious – the good Catholics that we are, we had a huge argument about Papal Infallability and Church tradition!
However, the next time I came into the room, he private messaged me with an apology, and everything started to blossom from there. We met at the beginning of May 2001, and after a week of emailing several times a day to each other, he telephoned me. We spent nine hours on the phone that first night, and from that point we both knew that this was something special. Now as well as emails, instant messages and chat, we would be on the phone almost every day as well. It was expensive, but we all know that money comes second in this situation!
We had so much in common – both Social Workers, similar backgrounds, political views, Irish Catholics – the emotional, intellectual and spiritual connection was so strong. Christopher had had reservations in the beginning – we were 3000 miles apart and there was an age difference of 20 years (I was 24, he was 44), but the feelings couldn’t be denied. One Sunday evening towards the end of May (we had known each other about three weeks), I was reading my Bible, and trying to get up the courage to tell Christopher how felt. My eye fell on a passage in the book of Ruth, “Where you go I will go, and where you stay I will stay. Your people will be my people and your God will be my God. Where you die I will die, and there I will be buried.”> I knew this was what I wanted to say to him, so when he phoned that night I told him I wanted to read something to him (we were always reading to each other – Elizabeth Barret Browning, Christina Rossetti, Emily Dickinson, John Donne, Oscar Wilde). But he said he had something to read to me and wanted to go first – he proceeded to read out the same verse from the book of Ruth that I had prepared. Since then there have been so many more moments of syncronicity like that, but this was the first. I’m not superstitious, but it just felt like the saints and angels, and perhaps Christopher’s own dead mother (who always told him to find a nice Irish girl) were pulling strings and letting us know that we were meant for each other. We told each other that we were in love that very night, and plighted our troth there and then. We had known each other less than a month and I hadn’t even seen a picture of Christopher, though he had seen some of me – it didn’t matter.
We began to make plans for me to move out to New York to be with him – I would go out initially for my birthday in September for a visit, then would move there permanently in October in time for his birthday. I was so excited as the time got closer – some of my friends thought that I was mad, that I was taking too great of a risk, but there were one or two close friends who supported me and stood by me, and said that they respected my judgement enough to know that if I thought this was the right thing to do, then it was the right thing to do.
My whole family came to the airport to see me off on September 7th 2001 – my Mother was happy for me, but she was crying as I got to the check-in point past which no one else could go – I couldn’t stop smiling though. Usually running late and behind with everything, for once I had got there in good time, and so I was calm and relaxed as I sat reading a magazine until my flight was called. When the call came I walked over and handed in my boarding pass. The lady asked for my passport, which puzzled me as I had put it inside the pass. It wasn’t there! I looked in my bag, checked behind me – it wasn’t there! The boarding gate was about 10 minutes walk away from the seating area, which in turn was in a separate building from the check-in desk where I had last had my passport inspected. I asked if I could leave my hand-luggage with her while I went to check everywhere I’d been in the last two hours, but she wouldn’t let me. I started running all over the airport frantically, retracing my steps. Eventually I came right back to the place where my family had waved goodbye and I had had my passport checked previously – and I hadn’t found it anywhere. I asked any member of staff I could find, looked in the restaurants, in the bathrooms – nothing. I’d already asked the guy who had scanned my hand-luggage twice, but I went to him again in floods of tears – the flight was due to take off in five minutes, and they’d been last-calling me for fifteen. He took pity on me and started phoning around all the different airport desks – eventually we heard that someone had picked it up in the corridor and handed it in to the British Airways desk. I’ve never run so hard in my life – the plane had to be held up just for me, but I made it! The flight was in two legs, Belfast to Shannon, disembarking for immigration, then Shannon to New York. I had to keep asking for tissues all the way to Shannon I was sweating so much! My heart didn’t stop pounding the whole way there, and the lady next to me thought I was frightened of flying because I looked so panicked and still had red eyes from crying!
I’d calmed down by the time I got to New York – but only a little! I stood in the arrivals lounge and waited – that’s all I could do because I’d never seen Christopher’s picture to recognise him. He was a few minutes late because he’d had trouble parking – it felt like I was standing there forever. I was beginning to worry that he’d seen me, not liked what he saw, and left – but then I heard his voice behind me. We just hugged and hugged, then we had our first kiss. It was the first time I’d seen his face, but somehow it felt like I’d always known how he would look. On the way home he kept cheering and tooting the horn – I’m sure the other drivers thought he was mad!
We didn’t really get to celebrate my birthday that year – it was 11th September 2001. All the flights were grounded for a while after that, including the date that I was supposed to return to Ireland. We decided that there was no need for my to go back again and return to him in October – my things were all packed at home anyway and could be forwarded to me, and we could stay together.
We got married on the 1st December 2001 – just a civil ceremony. We still plan a proper Catholic wedding back in Ireland as soon as my paperwork is all squared away – that will take another couple of years. We’ve been married nearly two years now, and are still as happy and as in love as the day I came here. It’s true that one person can’t be everything to you – I’m still finding it hard to adjust to life here, I miss my family and friends and get so homesick, and I find it very frustrating not being able to
work.
These things are temporary, though – when my paperwork is through I’ll be able to work, and we’ll be able to visit Ireland often. The thing that is permanent is our love and our relationship – we know that we could never be apart from each other – or from the family of 13 cats that we now have!
To anyone that might be sceptical about internet romance, I tell them our story – and ask them what other feasible way is there to find your true soulmate. Is it really that likely that the one person in six billion meant for you will live in your hometown, a few miles down the road? Hardly! So anyone that reads this and who is feeling demoralised by being apart from their internet partner, and other people’s reactions – remember that we are pioneers who had the wisdom and courage to put ourselves out there in cyberspace, because we wanted to find the one who was right for us, not settle for the one that was right under our noses.
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Thank God for the internet ! After 30 years of wondering, my heart was put to rest. A goodbye that was never said and feelings that were never revealed. A kiss that would last a life time and a romantic evening that will never be forgotten. The beauty of a woman that would never be matched through eternity.
Whatever happened to Mary ? After 30 years I finally got the courage to find out. With 3 weeks of searching on the internet I located her in Oregon. I will come back to this part later.
The most romantic evening ever :
It was a early fall evening, a perfect night weather wise with a full moon. I was invited to a party in Santa Clara,Ca. by my Marine friends. A week prior to this, I was to escort the Miss Runner-up Santa Clara in the state fair. My friend and I were to ride in the Governor’s car along with Miss Santa Clara and Mary. As it turned out, my friend chickened out. Which left me with no choice to do the same. The other 5 Marines did escort the other contestants and had a great time. They knew I was disappointed in not going. So they invited me to the party in which most of the girls were coming.
You never seen so many pretty girls at a party. I was having a ok time but felt a little lonely not having a girl with me. I guess an hour or less went by as I left seat on the sofa and my drink & etc. on a table as I went to the kitchen to call a girl on the phone. When I came back, someone had taken my seat. I couldn’t believe my eyes ! The most beautiful girl that I have ever seen was sitting there. Wow ! She had beautiful blonde hair and eyes that just seemed to glitter. She looked at me noticing she must of taken my spot and said : I’m sorry !, did I take your seat ? At that time my eyes were just glued to her, I said yes, kind of in a dumb sort of way. She looked at me with that beautiful face and padded the 6 inch space on the sofa next to her and asked me to sit down. Oh my God !,I couldn’t believe it ! The dream of my life has come true. As we sat & talked so close together she found out I was the one that was to escort her. She was so joking mad at me for making her spend the ride and most of that day with the Governor & etc. I explained my reasons and she forgave me with her beautiful smile. We later ended up in her friend’s car for hours ! ( not what you think ! ) We kissed and talked for hours. We kissed 24 minutes non-stop through the long version of the song : in-a-gadda-da-vida. The kiss that I would remember for 30 years and counting. Her friends had to pull us apart to leave, I can still remember our hands holding on to each other, not wanting to leave each other. Even though we saw each other & phoned the next several months, it the hands holding onto each other that I always remembered.
We never had the chance to say goodbye, because I was to return to California the following year. I never was able to tell her that I was in love with her. That I was afraid to get married at that age. I had no career to support such a beautiful girl. She never knew why I never returned. This was something that I have regretted my whole life.
Reunited after 30 years !!! Mary and I have emailed each other in the past year. I was able to finally tell her what happened and how much I cared about her then. Also that the song has always brought back that night for each of us. That the kiss was the greatest ever for the both of us. And that first email made a grown man cry with regret & happiness for her being alive & well and finally telling her how much I have loved her over the years and all the great dreams about her. She felt great finally knowing the truth and so flattered about the dreams.
Our responsibilities and careers are in the way now. But someday, I am going to get on that plane to Oregon. If our hands touch and that feeling is still there, I will never let go this time.
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The Chobanoffs
So we started to get to know each other, and before too long we were chatting every night and then finally we decided to meet, so we picked a place up near where I lived and she drove 1 1/2 hours to see me, but she missed the place we were to meet and ended up far away north on the road into another county, meanwhile I was on my way to meet her at the place and she wasn’t there, so I got nervous and though I was getting stood up.
I began to drive around and I get a ring on my cell phone, here its her calling from the pay phone at the place to meet saying she got lost and she was sorry, well I was two minutes away and kept driving while talking to her and I get to the parking lot and I say “I see someone beautiful standing by the phone, is it you?” with a smile she answers and we hang up. Then she followed me back to my place and hung out, couple hours later she went home.
And then that night we were back online chatting, and we decided we wanted to see each other again. The next time we met was the night I was going to leave for a week on a fishing trip with my family, she came up to see me off. When I came back that night she came up again. It was awhile before I went to her place because of her parents, she knew they wouldn’t like fact of seeing someone online, let alone meeting them so we made a story up that we met at work. but when the day came to meet her parents I met her a mutual place and followed her home and met her family, which I have to say went well.
We commuted and emailed back and forth, between my work and her at home and school, and at night, and also on the phone, more phone was involved less email became. Then in December of that year we found that she was pregnant and we waited and waited to tell anyone and then finally we told our parents which didn’t go exactly well.
That February I proposed to her and she accepted. and that march we moved into together. That May we got married on the 19th, then on Oct. 10, she gave birth to a daughter, and we are still presently happily married and we have a beautiful and wonderful 17 month old girl.
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Derry and Lynne
We always felt good for each other in many ways – and when we met in Wales for the first time we knew the love we felt for each other was a very special love. We soon found we were not only lovers, but soul mates. It was not long before I moved into an apartment in Wales to be near to Lynne, and to give our love the chance to blossom. The move proved to be the best move in my life. We both have so much love to give, and our love radiates all around for all to see.
We enjoy romantic walks up the mountains of Wales. And enjoy sitting high up above the valley just holding each other and enjoying the solitude together. Most of all we never forget to remind each other of our love for each other. We have found we are so compatible in so many ways and now wonder if fate drew us together.
We started our life living together on 1 September 2000 – became engaged on 19 October 2001 – and were married on 25 October 2002. We have grown closer and even more inseparable then either of us thought possible as time has passed and have both vowed we will never be apart as long as there is breath in our bodies. We have both found our soul mates – a true love with happiness neither of us have known before.
To our happiness we owe Mplayer. The message is that love can happen on the Internet, if you are willing to take it slow, and take the trouble to get to know the person you are talking to. Yes, it seems strange to us that we found the best love each of us has ever known on the Internet – but it has happened and we are now looking forward to many years together.
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