Dear Lynda,
I met this guy on the internet about two months ago in a singles chat room. We clicked automatically with our wit and humour. We agreed that night to talk again the next night. He said he was single. I’m 30 and he was 26. Each night we talked we became closer and closer. Sharing our feelings, hopes and dreams, and even talking about a future together. He managed to look up my address and phone number somehow and had my email address. But he wouldn’t give that info about himself to me because he said he couldn’t over the net because of his job. (he’s a cop). I told him my biggest fear was that I’d never hear from him again and I wouldn’t be able to reach him. He said he would never just leave without word and that he wasn’t that “shallow”. Well the last night we spoke everything was so perfect. He sent me love songs and poems and really opened up to me about a future. Well that was the last night I heard from him. His comp did quit 4 times on us that night but it!’s been a month now and I still haven’t heard anything. He had my number and address so he could have called. I’m just so confused as to what happened to him all of a sudden. There and so perfect one night, gone without a trace the next. I have no way of getting a hold of him so I don’t know what to do. Just wondering what could have happened to him. Any ideas? I would appreciate any input at this point. Thanks so much.
Very confused
Dear Very Confused,
There’s lots of reasons why you never heard from him again. I could rattle off tons of possibilities, all of which have probably already gone through your mind already.
The odds are that this guy was a fraud and most doubtful that he was a cop. There a lot of women that have fallen for this trick, usually in an attempt to obtain cybersex and a few cheap thrills. Usually married, unemployed, and bored, these guys are preying on some really nice women.
The fact that he didn’t want your phone number, should have been your first sign that he was a fraud. He didn’t want you to invade his personal space, and only wanted what he could get out of you on the computer.
Signal number two should have been the way in which he romanced you. Often married men are overly flirtatious and seem too good to be true.
Sounds like you got off light!
Lynda
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