Dear Lynda,
I am so confused as what to do. I have met a wonderful guy over the internet. We chat every evening. He makes me laugh, and never cry. I can never wait to hear from him. For a few weeks now he has been telling me he loves me. He has been asking if I feel the same way. Deep down I think I do. But I can not say it out aloud. He is five years younger than me and I am sure that it is always at the back of my mind. But I am so confused as to what to do.
We have not discussed about meeting yet. He lives about an hour away from me. Which is no distance at all. Shall I go for it or back off? My family or friends do not know what is going on, I am not ashamed but it feels weird. She I take the leap and suggest we meet.
Very Confused
Dear Very Confused,
It is not unusual for you to feel weird in an internet romance as it is still a relatively new phenomenon. If you are not ready to admit your love for him at present, then just relax and allow time to take care of things. The more you get to know him and spend time with him, the more you will be sure of your feelings and the easier it will be.
But don’t fear, Richard and I admitted our love for one another after just one week. I found the print out of the email yesterday where he told me he loved me and you can still see where my tears smudged the ink.
With regard to your family and friends, when you feel the time is right to tell them, we have a letter that you might like to offer them to read. Also, I have found that a good way to break it to them is when you are both present, as they can see a real couple and this helps enormously.
I think you should go for it. If he is of legal age and makes you feel good, you deserve it!
Lynda
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