Dear Lynda,
I have a problem! There is a girl I know and I really really like her. I recently was talking to her about it, and found out that she feels the same way about me. The only thing is that she is younger than me. Quite a lot younger than me. I am 18, and she is 14. I know that sounds really bad, but if you knew her… She is a lot more mature than her age suggests. We are both Christians so anything like sex is not in the equation so that makes it slightly better I guess. Whilst talking about it with her, she came to the conclusion that it was simply the issue of age blocking our way. She really wants something to happen (as do I) but she sees the age gap as a big problem. What do I do?!
In Love but Stuck
Dear In Love but Stuck,
It is not a sin to have strong feelings for someone. When you are young though, desires can often rule your thoughts. (2 Timothy 2:22) Younger girls often have crushes on older men. I’m not saying that this is the case in this situation as I do not know you both, but you would do well to ride out the current tide of passion and develop a strong friendship with this girl. This way, if you are still serious about each other in the future, you will have a fantastic grounding for a strong marriage.
By pushing aside your romantic feelings for each other, you will be able to see if you are really compatible as mates and this may also give the girl time to take stock of what it is she is feeling. Remember ‘Where there is no wood the fire goes out’ (Proverbs 23:26)
Lynda
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